Friday, June 08, 2007

Conversations...

I am so naive...dense...obtuse...

Me: Have you talked to anyone about getting an advance on your sick leave?

PD: Yes. You have to be able to pay it back.

Me: Yes.

PD: Well, the doctor isn't willing to write that guarantee at this time.

Me: *Confused* What do you mean?

PD: Not if I DIE.

Me: *Aghast* Eyes growing huge* Oh my goodness! I thought you meant you had to be able to pay it back financially.

PD: Well, yes. Financially, meaning that I am alive to work. And the doctors don't know at this point what my outcome will be.

Me: *shoulders sagging* Oh.

16 comments:

~Jennifer said...

Oh my. That just sucks. And his employer won't give him sick leave because he might not live to pay it back? Yeah, that sucks.

Terry said...

Just came by to see how Pilot-dad is.
I hope that his weekend will be good Pilot-mom...Love Terry

Andrea said...

I can see that I've been out of touch too long! I'm so sorry about PD and what you must be going through in all of this. I was so glad to read that your son made it on Friday! And no, you're not dense - anyone would have difficulty wrapping their mind around all the things you're facing.

Terry said...

Not only that Andrea,
Even with all that is going on our Pilot-mom is even praying for a lot of us, eh?..Love Terry

HeyJules said...

Well now I'm going to have to spend the rest of the day with a broken heart...

Oh Claire. {{{{hugs}}}}

G~ said...

(((((((claire)))))))

no way you are dense, etc. like andrea said... anyone would have trouble juggling all the mind-weight you're dealing with. :*(

i'm so sorry you & pd are dealing w/this crud. employers can be really snotty in situations like this. i'm just so sorry... i wish there was something i could do to help.

just know that i am, as always, praying for you guys.

love you much!

jel said...

a pray and a hugg!

Terry said...

Dear Pilot-mom.
It is so nice to be reading your comments on Pilgrim David's blog!


Hey G...did you get the email I sent to you a while ago or did it [sigh!] end up in gabage mail?.........Love Terry

Felisol said...

Dear Pilot Mom,
I'm just an ignorant old squarehead from Norway. I understand that the politics and law works quite different in our democracies..But denying a person with cancer, is to stall him from the opportunity to fight for his life. Can that really be legal in the land of the free and the brave?? I've got to pray more and more and more..

Felisol said...

You will see whee the word "sickleave" should be put in.
I really am too sloppy, sorry.

daisymarie said...

It sounds like he's preparing you both for all potential outcomes. Reality can hit quite hard. I'll keep praying.

LJ Ducharme said...

The one word that comes to my mind is "Crap!!". So, I send my virtual hugs instead.

Dawn said...

Just wanted to come by and see how Pilot Dad is doing. Both of you are in my prayers! Much love to you...(((hugs)))

Hez said...

I am so sorry to read of your husband's illness. I stumbled upon your blog, after researching for my father. He has also just been diagnosed with squamous cell carcinoma in the lymph nodes of his neck, with primary site unknown. They are doing a second scope on Thursday to see if they can at all determine it. And it appears he will be mirroring your husband's treatment thus far. He will be scheduled for the dissection,radiation and potentially chemo. I will keep all of you in my prayers and will read this regularly to see how you are all making out. Amazing,how your life changes in one second. My father is concerned with the same financial uncertainty and the ability to work. I will keep this all in prayers for your family and mine.

Pilot Mom said...

Daisymarie, don't stop praying.

LJ, I will always take hugs from you!

Dawn, thanks for dropping in!

Hez, I am so sorry to hear about your father! It isn't a pleasant thing to go through, however, I keep reminding myself that just a few short years ago this wasn't available and the alternative was not good. Come often, and I pray you will always leave refreshed!

G~ said...

hey, terry.. i DID get your email AND I sent you a reply, even!!

now whose email has ended up in the garbage?!?! lol!