One thing I have noticed about being in so much pain is that you are consumed by it. It makes it very difficult to concentrate on anything else. It's hard to focus on a conversation or even try to accomplish some small task. Even without movement by you there is still constant pain. It isn't muscle pain but it is nerve pain which doesn't seem to be touched by most pain pills.
As I have pondered my situation I've studied how best to cope with it. I haven't questioned God on why it is happening to me because I know He would not allow anything to touch me that hasn't passed through His hands first. He is sovereign and nothing can happen to me without His allowing it.
There is an excellent little book out there called The Red Sea Rules by Robert J. Morgan. He has written a book with 10 God given strategies for difficult times. I've read this little book several times over the past several years. It's full of good, solid biblical information that is helpful to anyone who is experiencing difficult times. I highly recommend it.
Over the last couple of weeks as I have been in God's Word, I have discovered some points that have helped me to cope. My first avenue for relief has been prayer, but not that God would take this away (however, that would be very nice), rather He would give me the suffiency of His grace to endure and persevere throught out the duration. My prayer has been that I could continue as much as possible with the care of my husband and mother. Now, I admit, what I have been able to do has been severely cut. But I have tried to carry on as much as I am able.
One of the first things I've been reminded of is while conflict/trials are inevitable, prayer is crucial. Discouragement is understandable but I am given the ability to go through it. What should I do when I am discouraged? I believe unity is essential. Allow others to pray for you. Make the effort to get together with others. The other day, I went out to lunch with 3 other dear friends. Judy picked me up and took me (she was one of the luncheon gals) and then dropped me off for my hair appt and came back and picked me up from there and took me home. It is humbling to be dependent on others to get around because of medication. Trying to figure out how to get around when I can't drive can be a little tricky. But, the lunch out was a great boost for me. After all, I was going to hurt whether I was laying around at home or out with my friends.
Also, I think it's important to publicly declare my belief in God. To focus on who He is. It is one of the best remedies for discouragement there is to ponder on how powerful God is. God is strength. God is awesome. When "its" bigger than I can deal with that's when I need the right concept of God. I need to "remember." So often I can put the problem in front of God, blocking His greatness. Instead I should put God in front of my problem.
I need to remember that sacrifice is indispensable. The work of God doesn't just happen. A lot of times I may need to be out of my comfort zone for God to use me. But, I go back to "remember"....
- God is personal. He is my God.
- God is unique.
- God is attentive.
- God is righteous.
- God is powerful.
- God is awesome.
- God is sovereign.
- God is unfailing.
My view of God who will be with me through out is crucial. It's not the robustness of my faith but it is the reliability of my God. Remember....
What I've written has not come from the Red Sea book. It has mainly come from Nehemiah 4.